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Inspirational quotes – they’re so depressing

Inspirational quotes – they’re so depressing

7 am – and another day of To Do’s, rushing and chores. ‘What’s the point? Nothing inspirational here'. I pile on the slap and decide which black to wear. By the time I reach blusher, my Doubting Twin voice has built a head of steam – ‘pull yourself together – you’re...

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Re-interpreting age

Re-interpreting age

The evidence is all around us – it’s time to re-interpret age. From 100 year old women dancing the tango to Helen Mirren looking hot at 70 – age no longer fits the stereotype. Soon we’ll have to stop being amazed and accept this is the way it is. As my friend Lynn...

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Why Does the Doubting Twin Matter?

Why Does the Doubting Twin Matter?

Teresa is extremely bored in her job. With no challenge or inspiration, she goes from day to day on automatic pilot. She’d love to do something more interesting, but no one has offered. And she could never sell herself – she doesn’t have enough confidence for that....

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What Do You Want?

What Do You Want?

For a Doubting Twin, it’s the worst question in the world: ‘what do you want?’ I can’t ask for that – it’s too greedy What does s/he want me to ask for? No one else has that, so I can’t In reality the Doubting Twin - that critical voice in your head that questions...

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Time to believe your own press

Time to believe your own press

Those moments of praise when others say how well you’ve done; how funny you are; how great you look are little bits of precious that deserve to be hugged close. They remind you of your talents, successes and achievements. Unless you have a strong Doubting Twin. Praise...

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Anyone know the rules?

Anyone know the rules?

“I always assumed everyone else knew what the rules were – still do really.” Hailey lives on the edge, expecting any minute to make a big mistake and be found wanting. It’s exhausting! Her Doubting Twin is pretty gobby: Be quiet, you’ll sound stupid You never know...

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Change – it’s getting personal

Change – it’s getting personal

I love change – and hate it at the same time. Predictability bores me and the flavour goes out of life. Change, on the other hand, gets my heart pumping and I’m back on my toes. It’s all about the opportunity – anything could happen and that’s exhilarating. Until I...

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Communication is such a blunt instrument

Communication is such a blunt instrument

I can easily become a ‘grumpy old woman’ about communication – it is such a blunt instrument. So many difficulties are created by people assuming they understand and, because they believe they know what’s been said, they don’t bother to check. So how does it go? I...

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Who’s criticising your body right now?

Who’s criticising your body right now?

I'm discovering that many women have a Doubting Twin - an inner voice that constantly undercuts confidence; 'Whatever made you think you looked good in that?' 'Everyone will see through you.' 'There's no point, you're just hopeless.' Most of the time we can hide it -...

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